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Divine thoughts -by Elsy Mathew.
Successful Marriage
Getting
married is easy, staying married is more difficult,
staying
happily married for a lifetime should rank among the fine arts—Roberta Flack
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Elsy mathew |
We all look forward to being loved and
respected. Many people are afraid of losing face. Generally, when a person
makes a mistake, he would look around to find a scapegoat to point the finger
at. This is the start of a war. We should always remember that when we point
one finger at a person, the other four fingers are pointing at ourselves.
Many married people think that when they marry they possess their
partner much as they possess and own a fridge or a stove or a radio. But man
and wife don't belong to one another, they have been given to one another. They
keep their identity. As the Labanese poet, Kahlil Gibran says, "In
the temple the pillars stand alone. And just because of that they carry the
beautiful ceiling." Take a look at any Church or large building, the
pillars are never together, or in pairs. No. They are spaced out. Even in
Nature we have this tolerance and trust. Beautiful trees like cypresses and
oaks never grow in one another's shadow. Shadows stunt tree growth and shape
and size. True love needs distance. The more a partner can allow his or her
partner the sense of personal freedom, the more often will he or she receive
that partner in return as a free and willingly given gift.
In life, there are enough times when we are
disappointed, depressed and annoyed. We don't really have to go looking
for them. We have a wonderful world that is full of beauty, light and
promise. Why waste time in this world looking for the bad, disappointing or
annoying when we can look around us, and see the wondrous things before
us? I believe that we are happiest when we see and praise the good and
try our best to forget the bad.
Nobody is perfect but we can find perfectness in them to change the way we see them.
A man and his girlfriend were married. It was a large celebration. All of their friends and family came to see the lovely ceremony and to partake of the festivities and celebrations.
Everyone could tell that the love they had for each other was true. A few months later, the wife comes to the husband with a proposal: "I read in a magazine, a while ago, about how we can strengthen our marriage." she offered. "Each of us will write a list of the things that we find a bit annoying with the other person. Then, we can talk about how we can fix them together and make our lives happier together." The husband agreed. So each of them went to a separate room in the house and thought of the things that annoyed them about the other. They thought about this question for the rest of the day and wrote down what they came up with. The next morning, at the breakfast table, they decided that they would go over their lists. "I'll start," offered the wife. She took out her list. It had many items on it. Enough to fill 3 pages, in fact. As she started reading the list of the little annoyances, she noticed that tears were starting to appear in her husband's eyes.
"What's wrong?" she asked. "Nothing" the husband replied,
"keep reading your list." The wife continued to read until she
had read all three pages to her husband. She neatly placed her list on the
table and folded her hands over top of it.
"Now, you read your list and then we'll talk about the things on both of our lists." She said happily. Quietly the husband stated,"I don't have anything on my list. I think that you are perfect the way that you are. I don't want you to change anything for me. You are lovely and wonderful and I wouldn't want to try and change anything about you."
The wife, touched by his honesty and the depth of his love for her and his acceptance of her, turned her head and wept.
Nobody is perfect but we can find perfectness in them to change the way we see them.
A man and his girlfriend were married. It was a large celebration. All of their friends and family came to see the lovely ceremony and to partake of the festivities and celebrations.
Everyone could tell that the love they had for each other was true. A few months later, the wife comes to the husband with a proposal: "I read in a magazine, a while ago, about how we can strengthen our marriage." she offered. "Each of us will write a list of the things that we find a bit annoying with the other person. Then, we can talk about how we can fix them together and make our lives happier together." The husband agreed. So each of them went to a separate room in the house and thought of the things that annoyed them about the other. They thought about this question for the rest of the day and wrote down what they came up with. The next morning, at the breakfast table, they decided that they would go over their lists. "I'll start," offered the wife. She took out her list. It had many items on it. Enough to fill 3 pages, in fact. As she started reading the list of the little annoyances, she noticed that tears were starting to appear in her husband's eyes.

"Now, you read your list and then we'll talk about the things on both of our lists." She said happily. Quietly the husband stated,"I don't have anything on my list. I think that you are perfect the way that you are. I don't want you to change anything for me. You are lovely and wonderful and I wouldn't want to try and change anything about you."
The wife, touched by his honesty and the depth of his love for her and his acceptance of her, turned her head and wept.
There was a German in the Ashram. He fell in
love with an Italian woman. But this man was divorced thrice before. He
felt this is the ideal soul mate. He asked me, “Guruji, (Sri Sri Ravi Shankar)
I have met this Italian woman, she is my ideal soul mate. I want to marry her.
But the problem is she doesn’t know German and I don’t know Italian. How can we
live a happy life together? He said, “Don’t teach her German and you don’t
learn Italian, you will live happily.” Now they are married for the last 13
years.
The Bible says: “They are no longer two, but one. Man must not
separate, then, what God has joined together.” (Mathew 19:6).
A good marriage is like an
incredible retirement fund. You put everything you have into it during
your productive life,
and over the years it turns from
silver to gold to platinum
-- Willard Scott
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